The other day at lunch after one of my kids had earned a reward and chose to eat in the classroom with 5 of his friends we watched ESPN's Sportscenter together. The conversation turned to their basketball game last night and how they felt the refs were cheating them. One quote I heard was "Yeah, it was like we were playing 7 on 5." You know, the opposing team + the two refs. I think kids hear that from somewhere. I then tried to dig deeper. "Did you touch the other team at all?" I asked them. Then, they got defensive about it. I tried to talk about owning up and taking some responsibility, but they wouldn't have any of it always bringing the attention back to the overzealous referees. Parents, please don't put on the Parental Blinders when talking to your son/daughter about their abilities. Be as real as you can without making them feel insignificant. When you aren't you are setting them up for failure later on in life. Telling them to focus on daily improvement and the process is where it should be. It should never be about playing time, points, or someone else's kid.
From a coach's standpoint - if your child is a stud, do you not think a coach would want to play him/her? I mean come on. Why wouldn't a coach want to play a stud? There is no reason, unless it involves discipline. Coaches use discipline out of love. No one wants to discipline someone else for just cause. It doesn't make sense.
I think this is a really good quote. "Parents do not tell the truth to their kids like we coaches do. We now live in a politically correct world and people are not used to hearing the truth. They want to not face what is real and make excuses when things do not go their way. Rules are wonderful until they affect my kid. Then we want something else to be done."
Thoughts on this?
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